2012-08-02 / Lifestyles

Secrets of our success

Lois A. Corcoran

My honey and I celebrate 26 years of wedded bliss this month. In military terms, that makes us “lifers”.

Dan the man served in the Air Force when we first tied the knot. It’s fitting to say we experienced our share of turbulence and more than a few rough landings. Still, we surprised ourselves and the world at large by managing to stay the course.

“To what do you attribute our long union?” I asked my Better Half the other day.

“To the fact that we’re still together,” he replied.

“No, no! I mean, what’s the secret of our success?”

“I keep my mouth shut and agree with whatever you say,” said Dan.

“I thought it was the other way around,” I argued.

My wise husband just smiled and nodded.

He also credits our success to “lack of interference from the inlaws.” This is because our early years found us stationed four states away. When we returned home, the habit apparently stuck.

True, we are opposites in more ways than one, but that kind of balances us out. Like, how I sneak yard sale treasures in the back door and he hauls them out again.

We learned early on that we each need our own space. Thus I reign over the house and my former Airman husband gets the great outdoors. When we’re both outside, I’m a landlubber while he “lubs” the water. And there’s plenty of both in this state.

One opposite that didn’t endear us to each other was the Mr. Party Animal versus Mrs. Social Phobe scenario. In our younger days, his painting the town red made me downright blue. But that has since changed.

He may not have settled into the “smoking jacket and slippers habit” but he’s getting there. Said reference comes from a book called “Don’ts for Husbands/Don’ts for Wives” (Blanche Ebbutt, author). Did I mention it was published in 1913?

Fortunately for me, Dan never took the girls who threw themselves at him seriously. And now that his knees creak, they don’t take HIM seriously. I just hope he won’t have to replace his landing gear any time soon.

It helps having shared experiences, too. Looking back, we have decades of memories to reminisce about – and a few we’d be far better off forgetting, though that’s highly unlikely.

God willing, these lifers will have many more to come.

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